Courtesy of tales of a twentysomething
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Francesca: I had thoughts about him I hardly knew what to do with and he read every one. Whatever I wanted, he gave himself up to, and in that moment everything I knew to be true about myself was gone. I was acting like another woman, yet I was more myself than ever before. - Bridges Over Madison County
The most memorable quote from the movie, Bridges Over Madison County, about a housewife and how her four-day love affair with a man questions everything she had come to expect from life. I am not comparing my life to hers, but there are similarities in her that every woman experiences, including my own, when they dedicate their livelihood to building a life around everyone except their own.
What is it worth to throw away your existence to find a new one in hopes of reconnecting with who you used to be?
When he looks at you, it’s without judgments, except that he is looking at a woman. For all that you are to everyone else – to him you’re just a woman that he wants.
You are a stranger to him and when he speaks, you don’t want to miss the opportunity to listen. You never know when you will have that moment where he thinks you are the most interesting person, so you are captivated by his thoughts. Even when he has little to say, when he does, his words are that more genuine.
The thought of seeing his face is an adrenaline rush, a euphoria you can’t reach from any drug. Your heart starts beating and your palms become sweaty. You want to hold back but he leans in and kisses you and you lose all control. Every time you close your eyes all you can think about is his hands taking your face and pulling it closer to his, the sweet taste and the smell of something so pure that can never be duplicated.
Feelings are subject to change, and we all evolve in many ways at different times. The message I got from Bridges Over Madison County was that you shouldn’t be afraid to live out your feelings but have some realistic expectations. Fear can hold you back from being open to “kind of certainty comes but once in a lifetime”. But you can also be at the other end and be that person holding back someone from moving on to love someone else if you are not ready to love them completely and unconditionally.
If you bruise easy and you are clumsy with your heart then move along.
Too Wired For Digital Romance
Who needs a warm body to get off when my phone keeps vibrating. I bet you your phone gets more action than you do.
The benefit of technology is the access to text, email, real time updates and sharing between friends through Facebook, Twitter, and MySpace. The downside is that dating and forming friendships seems to be easier digitally than it is face to face.
People don’t make time for romance anymore, they send messages over the internet to say everything they should say to your face..I love you…I like you…I wanna see you…I miss you. If you are lucky you will get a full text and not the short abbreviations. Making a telephone call is even considered extinct. Where waiting to receive a phone call used to be torture, consider these days when you know they got your message because they just updated their Facebook status on their cell phone, and you know they did because Facebook publishes when and how you updated your status. Talk about rejection eh?
It must be the thrill people get from publically having power and control over how you make someone feel without confronting them first – at least verbally. You break up and make online…changing your relationship status from “in a relationship” to “it’s complicated”. You post pictures and tag yourself in other friends photos when you know those pics can be possibly seen by the very person you are trying to avoid.
Instead of a warm hug and kiss, a smiley face and some explicit sexting has become an acceptable form of affection. By the time you sit down and have a conversation with that person, they are at a loss for words because they said everything in a text message or email.
The best way to cope is to cut it off, easier said than done. We gals are just as guilty for indulging in the butterflies we get from anticipation just to see if we could get a response longer than 160 characters. What is sad is that we measure the importance of the meaning of text messages and emails by how much time it took in between the last message you sent them.
YES – he answered me in 10 minutes and the next day he text me 3 times…HE LIKES ME HE REALLY REALLY LIKES ME!
NOT he is probably bored and killing time. But whatever floats your boat.
If I had a choice between flowers being sent to me, nice dinner date and someone text or emailing me 10 times a day…I would take the flowers and the date. 160 characters on a 3G network can never replace true chivalry.
